On Being “Good” and Really Meaning It...

Well hello there! As I sit here with my coffee and my doggies next to me, Christmas tree blinking next to the fire, I cannot help but smile and thank God for my life I have.

A few days ago, Hugo told me a story about an encounter that he had with an old friend who asked him how he was...and his reply was, “I am good. Really, really good.” Hugo then proceeded to explain that although that is just a generic response that most of us give when someone asks us how we are, but most of us don’t actually mean it. He did this time. We talked about where we both were in life...with how we feel about ourselves, our lives etc. and we agreed that both of us actually are really really good!

So this got me thinking... what makes someone’s life really good?

Is it success? Money? Work? Fame?


I think it is relationships...and let me tell you why.

We are all born with the need for connection. It is inherent. We crave it and we must have it, or everything else in our lives will suffer as a result. Wh…

Confessions of a News Junkie

I used to have Fox News on my television 24/7 for many many years. I also used to be pissed off all of the time. Other stations would make me even more angry.

So much bloviating about crap that just really didn’t matter. Yes, I just used a Bill O’Reilly word. It is true though. Mainstream media celebrates idiots and give a grandstand to those that should not have one. Same junk over and over...regardless of the station that I turned too.

It scares me when I think about the amount of people who believe everything they hear on television. It is staggering. They don’t realize that most everything is tainted depending on the channel that you decide to turn to, one way or the other. Sadly, most media - I believe - is the agitator for a great divide in our country by perpetuating their own individual bias on their stations over and over and over and over again, getting more people believing what they are “reporting.” Mostly, it is all bullshit. Biased bullshit.

It also greatly alarms me tha…

The Art of Saying NO

Saying, “NO” is empowering and it is a skill that I have really honed in on this year with some great results.

“No” sets boundaries. It allows me to finally enjoy so many more things because I am not running around doing 54,000 things I DON’T want to do...all because I said, “no.”

So many of us- especially women- feel guilty when we get asked to do something (help with something...go to an event...take on an extra project etc.) so we just automatically say, “yes” when asked, knowing full well that we don’t have the freakin’ time to do it. We are so damn tired and so "scheduled up” because of this. We end up regretting saying “yes” more times than not and then we don’t enjoy doing what we committed to and end up doing it with resentment and disdain.

I am here to tell you that everyone needs to learn the art of saying, “NO”. It is way easier than you think.

When someone asks you to do something, don’t answer right away. Let them know that you will look at your schedule. Take time t…

A San Antonio Record

Yesterday, I quietly celebrated a victory that we had, which was closing more loans in one year than anyone has ever done in this 7th largest city in the USA. I know the year isn’t over yet...but as of last month, we still beat the old record.

We did it mostly with just myself and 2 assistants, adding an account manager (Ryan) just a few months ago. Others who have done this type of volume have teams of 15-20 or they take credit for the production of others as their own...but we still beat them. It was kind of a silent, sweet victory...mainly because it just shows what a small but mighty team can accomplish when you all have the same mindset.

What is the key to our success?

We love people. We care. We are organized. We give God the glory and keep Him at the center of all that we do. We don’t do it for the money. We work our asses off.

It is quite simple, actually.

So, thank you, Lord for the blessings that you have given us. We will continue to do Your work through us. We will continu…

When I Feel the Most Beautiful

Every day, for the most part, I have to be on my “A-Game” when it comes to how I look. Power suit. Put together.

I get to go to galas and events where I am dressed in beautiful clothes and my make-up and hair are done just right.

You would think that these times would be the times that I feel the best about myself...when I look the most beautiful.

But it is not.

There is a difference, for a woman, between looking beautiful and feeling beautiful.

When a woman looks beautiful- in her mind- it is only the outward appearance. The superficial. The, “Yeah, I look great in this amazing dress” or whatever she is wearing. Good hair day. No pimples. Whatever it takes. On the inside though, there’s a whole different story. She could have her shit together, or she might be a mess. You won’t know that part just by looking at her.

Oh...but then there is when a woman feels beautiful. This is powerful. A whole new ballgame. This starts on the inside. It is the place where she feels the most comfortab…

Take the Scales Off Your Eyes...And See!

There is a story in the Bible about Saul of Damascus (Who later became Paul) in Acts. The gist of the story is this: Saul persecuted anyone who followed Jesus...Jesus appeared to him in the street and confronted him...Saul became blind for 3 days...When he could see again, the first thing he did was to get baptized...Saul became Paul and became one of the greatest evangelists for Christ.

Yup. Total 180. God used him as His chosen instrument.

There is a line in Acts that says, "Immediately, something like scales fell from Saul’s eyes, and he could see again. He got up and was baptized.”

So this made me think this morning about the scales that we have on OUR eyes...and how we need to take that shi% OFF. Scales to you might mean limitations, unbelief, sadness, bitterness, negativity, mistrust, or just a general bad attitude about your circumstances.

Saul’s “scales” was his persecution of the Jews and his hatred of Jesus. When they were removed, his whole life changed...and he changed …

Your Health is Your Wealth

I can hear my Grandma saying it to me now, “Your health is your wealth”...and dang it, she is right. Gram is about to be 90 in 2 months and she is still a firecracker even though she is slowing down a bit.

If you don’t have your health, then you have matter how well off you are.

No health= No wealth.

You can have all of the money in the world...but if you are sick and can’t do anything with it, then you have nothing.

Thanks, Gram!!

Most people don’t think about how today’s actions are going to effect themselves later in life. If you don’t take the time to exercise, eat good and nutritious food, de-stress etc. now in life, how are you going to feel 10, 15, 30 + years from now? Like shit.

You have GOT to take care of yourself. You only get one body.

How do you want to be when you get old? Do you want to be fit? Able to do things? Healthy? Take those actions now to ensure that before it is too late.

Or...don’t take any action and see what happens. You won’t like it one bit.