Finding Peace

Amidst everything that is going on all around us, we have the ability to find Peace. Peace amongst the chaos and the clammer all around us. You will have to look for the good that comes through pain and trouble and realize that understanding just isn’t going to work right and faith will.

Having Peace calms the whirlwind that is rotating around you like your own personal tornado. I know you know what I am talking are probably feeling it right now, right? All of these events, the news, your worries, your fears, anxiety...all going 1000 mph around you much like a take a step and it follows you...rotating so quickly that you can’t even keep up...too many things. Yeah, having Peace turns that whirlwind into a comfortable breeze and a sunny day that warms you and brings a smile to your face despite the shit show going on all around you. Your anxieties are calmed and your mind gets cleared. Peace.

Right now, it is hard to look for good that is coming out…


The times that we are in right now are unlike any other time. I pray that everyone stays safe and that this pandemic comes to an end quickly. I pray for the successful recovery of those who are ill. I bet by now every one of you knows someone who has been affected by this virus – either physically or financially. The uncertainty in the world has caused some major volatility in the markets. Unemployment is now in the millions and it will impact every aspect of our country.
We are about to walk into a tsunami that is going to make 2008 look like a small wave and I am here to explain why.
In the end, I do believe, like we always do…we WILL come out of this stronger and better…but it is the in-between time that is going to be very difficult.
For the sake of simplicity, I am going to stick with the basics so that you understandwhat is going on and the implications that follow.
I am going to cover parts of the mortgage industry that most of you have little knowledge of, but are hugely important.

The Armor of God

Satan has been probably whispering in your ear lately. Telling you that there isn’t hope. You aren’t strong enough to get through this chaos. You aren’t going to make it. Go ahead and act badly, it’s ok. Live on the dark side. Give up. The world has gone to shit. It is never going to get better. You are in this for yourself only. Who cares what you do? Don’t help anyone, only help yourself. Take that drink. Turn your head away from that person. Be selfish, you deserve it. Where is God in all of this? He abandoned you. Why even try? You won’t make it. Join me.

Sound familiar? If you have found yourself getting discouraged, sad, anxious, worried, or if you have heard the whispers above...I want you to read this passage that is coming along with what I write after it.

The Armor of God10 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power.11Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes.12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but ag…

When Your Clothes do the Talkin'

Look at yourself right now and think about this: What are the clothes you are wearing saying about you?

Clothing....what you wear and how you wear them, speak volumes about you. Do they accurately represent the authentic you...or are you giving off a vibe that is not innately yours?

Think about the social clues you give even before someone speaks to you (they might be right or wrong, but it still happens). You are speaking to others before you even say one single word. What do YOUR clothes say about you?

Someone sees you and can subconsciously and consciously detect how you feel about yourself, your current mood, what you might do for a living, the amount of class that you have or don’t have, your sexuality, your gender, how old you are, your judgment, your personality, your beliefs and possibly even your viewpoints.

So my question to you is this: Do your clothes represent your true self? Or are you wearing someone else’s clothes?

Put Some Damn Makeup On!

Day 1 of Quarantine: Got dressed, did my hair, put on makeup.
Day 2: Got dressed, kinda did my hair and decided to forgo the makeup.
Day 3: Sweatpants came out, sloppy hair, no makeup.
Day 4: Another pair of sweatpants, no hair done, no makeup.
Day 5: I basically just gave up. Went from having daytime PJ’s to evening PJ’s.

A very quick and swift degradation of the “Jennifer” I know. It was almost too easy.

Found familiar? I know that I can’t be the only one.

What I did notice though about my degradation of my self-care was this: I just didn’t feel as good about myself as I did on Day 1. The more sloppy I dressed, the crappier I ate. The less I wanted to work out. I just kinda started to feel a little lazy for a lack of better words. Ick.

This week, oh this is going to be different. I am going to get right back into my routine as if I am actually going to the office versus just the few steps that it takes to go to my home office. I am getting dressed (not in a suit though) d…

Cacophony of Chaos

I turned 44 yesterday and needless to say, it was a very different birthday. Very quiet. Very chill. Good workout, vitamin IV, food shopping, picked up some sushi from my favorite place (Uni’ko at the Elon btw....definitely the best sushi in SA) and then we sat and watched movies on Amazon. It was a very nice day...just different.

Right now, I feel like I am in a movie and I bet that you do too. Like we are in the beginning part of a I am Legend or Walking Dead type movie where some shit is about to go down but no one is quite understanding it yet.

Cacophony of chaos. That is what I am hearing. Feeling. Seeing.

People are scared. Worried. Unsure. They can no longer live the lives that they had become accustomed to. Anxiety. Worry. Depression. No one knows what is going to happen next or what to expect. Many people have begun to act badly, as I have seen many instances of the bad parts of humanity come roaring out of them...panic, looting, stealing, crime. This is only the beginning.



I am sitting here this morning, feeling both grateful and guilty...thinking about how lucky I am to have a job that I can do from any location on the planet. Mary, Ryan and I are set up in my in my office and them at
my kitchen table. Doing business as usual sans meeting out clients. Oddly enough, we have found ourselves getting even more work done in our overloaded day.

Then I start thinking about the millions of people who are about to go through a horrible hardship that, I believe, hasn’t even started yet. Small businesses will be devastated by closure...Service workers who live off of tips...people who live paycheck to paycheck...people with young kids that can’t go to school...I mean, you name it. I believe that the after-effects of our social distancing is going to throw our world into a tizzy that has not even begun. I believe that aftermath will affect every single person on the planet and it makes me sad.

Our resilience will be tested and we are going to have to co…